I finally started one. My amazingly awesome therapist gave me a journal with (insert quote here) written on it. This quote gave me some thing to think about… And the end result of that thinking was to give me a journal that’s a simple list of what Ive done. This is something that I have neglected to focus on or even acknowledge for a long time. I review this journal second thing(meds come first) I. The morning. Its helping me move towards getting out of bed before work so that my life is more then laying in bed and work. I’m feeling really happy about this and am considering posting this list as a photograph on twitter, but I’m not sure if I’d be OK with making it public, or of it would just feel like too much work.
Why plan? it always ends up changing?
A planing gives you 2 things. Both are so valuable that it makes the headache of planning worth it.
When making a plan, you have to sit down and ask your self important questions. Lets start with a plan to go shopping, grab lunch with friends, and get some work done at a coffee shop after words. You know your starting location? good. You know what you’re shopping for? You have enough money to by it? You know when the stores open? what stores are likely to have the jacket your looking for? You know what time you’re going to have lunch? and were? You know what you need to bring with you to work on?
Once you’ve got all of that information, you can pull it into a rough plan. I’m going to go to big box store at 9, chain store at 930 ish, then other chain store around 10… then hit chain store in anoher shopping center around 1030 or 11, then be ready for lunch at that cool little family owned joint across the parking lot. Then a jump into the car, and hit the coffee shop by my house. Then home for dinner.
your friends call asking to bump lunch up to 11… doable right? just put the last shopping spot after lunch. easy to adjust.
When planning, you get 2 different things. first you get knowledge about what’s going on. It lets you see where you need more information, and more stuff.
It also gives you a general direction that your going in. Because sometimes life will spins you around until your lost, then knock you out.. and if you don’t have a plan it’s a whole lot harder to get reoriented and moving again.
I spent one of the worst days of the year making someone else’s day. I went to the zoo, walked around, then made a fruit platter and served a bottle of sparkling juice in nice glasses. After I introduced her to chocolate oranges. total cost to me…. a few hours and a few dollars.
It didn’t matter what I gave. It didn’t matter what I spent. The real gift was saying “your important.” and “your worth me thinking about, and doing something for… on a day that’s important to you.”
The big surprising thing? I spent today enjoying my self, instead of felling sorry for me that I don’t have a mom. Instead I thought about someone else, and made there day for them, using what I had available. And it felt good. It was a celebration… of women who both needed to feel connected, and special.
So, I learned that I too can celebrate mothers day, and that it dosn’t have to be all bad.